Stand Up!

I often see most of the married women are frustrated with the unrealistic expectations set by their respective life partners. The pressure of doing everything near perfect is so much that one will easily get into depression and forget that there is a beautiful world outside their house where they once lived happily before getting into the mess. We are so terrified and tired that there is no energy left to argue or explain. We do what they say, just to avoid unwanted fights and arguments. As a result, We often show our anger on our kids. We just want to stay away from any other external headache that comes on our way! We are always in a bad mood. And do not show interest in any other thing. As a result, we lose our friends and people who are close to us. Making new friends is totally out of scope! They want all our attention and doesn't want us to do any other thing other than washing their clothes, serving food and providing all the service they need on time with quality without expecting any help from them.

As if we had signed some contract to take care of them throughout our life. We didn't educate ourselves for 18 long years just to achieve the target and expectations set by our respective life partners every single day. Resolving the issues and tolerating their tantrums will keep us busy for 24/7.

We should not try to change a person. Because It takes a lifetime to understand a person. It hurts when one doesn't act asper another's expectations. Blaming each other will also not help. Because we were always like this. It is our love that we could understand each others personality, character, thoughts and expectations.  

Actions speak louder than words. One cannot show their supports by expressing their love and care just by words. A true gentleman is the one who respects his women, helps in her daily chores, understands her mood swings, doesn't put any terms and conditions, doesn't set any target, doesn't mentally abuse etc., and vice-versa.

We do not have to always compromise just to get out of the current situation. Instead, we can stand up for ourselves and fight back. Don't just live as a dead body when you are still alive. Our kids are watching how his/her dad is treating his/her mom and how his/her mom is tolerating everything silently or maybe vice-versa. We cannot always blame men or women. Few women will cry it out and get back to achieve targets set by their partner to avoid arguments and few will fight back! Crying doesn't mean that we are weak. Strong people can only afford to cry and let everything out. 

Live, love and laugh! Be happy! Stay safe! Keep smiling! This too shall pass!